The Season of Choosing Yourself
When Strength Begins to Ache
There are times when our strength begins to ache under its own weight. We’ve held composure, carried compassion, and stayed patient with situations that no longer feed us — not because we’re naïve, but because we’ve hoped they might one day align.
• What am I still carrying that isn’t mine to hold?
The Call for Honest Release
Eventually, our hearts start asking for honesty — the kind that doesn’t just soothe, but liberates. We find ourselves standing in the space between endurance and release, realizing that self-kindness isn’t about how much we can carry, but about knowing when to set something down.
• Where is honesty asking for my attention over endurance?
Returning to Our Own Ground
When we release what isn’t ours, we feel the steadiness of our own rhythm again. Integrity replaces obligation. Tenderness and clarity can coexist — love can remain even when proximity cannot.
• How might I honor clarity without diminishing compassion?
Strength That Protects Your Inner World
From that honesty grows a quieter strength. The strength to pause. To listen. To withdraw when needed — not from fear, but to protect the sacred space where wisdom forms. Strength becomes less about holding everything together, more about holding ourselves gently through the unraveling.
• How can I cultivate strength rooted in gentleness rather than endurance?
Stillness as a Form of Growth
In stillness, perspective softens. Growth doesn’t always require motion — sometimes it asks for waiting, surrendering, and trusting that the next step will rise to meet us when we’re ready.
• What might waiting reveal that action cannot?
Stepping Forward in Alignment
When the moment does come, something shifts. We’re no longer moving from fear, longing, or habit — we’re moving from alignment. We step forward in tune with ourselves, guided by the quiet knowledge of what we need, what we cannot carry, and what we’re finally ready to receive.
This is the kind of motion that feels clean. Grounded. True.
It’s the beginning of walking in our own direction again, not to prove anything, but to honor the rhythm we’ve reclaimed.
• What does moving in alignment — not urgency — look like for me right now?
• What needs of mine have gone unmet, and how can I center them as I move forward?
The Lightness After Release
And from that place, our hearts open again — not from striving, but from peace. We move forward lighter, grounded, and guided by something tender yet unbreakable within us. Alignment becomes our compass, attunement our pace, and honesty our path home.
• How can I continue choosing steps that honor who I’m becoming?
Resources to Explore:
Dr. Godwin, Sophia. (2024, December 28). This Year, Choose Yourself— It's the Best Resolution You Can Make. https://www.thehappinessdoctor.com/blog/new-year-choose-yourself.
Butler, Jada. (August 31). 10 Ways You Abandon Yourself And How To Choose Yourself Instead. https://www.soulviasole.com/blog/10-ways-you-abandon-yoursel-and-how-to-choose-yourself-instead
